The Twinless Twin

Spirituality and the loss of a sibling

I thought long and hard before writing this as part of our blog and although Dee and myself are not able to speak as having lost a twin sibling, we have lost an older brother to cancer 16 years ago and more recently our darling dad, who suffered the effects of alzheimers before passing at the age of 87.  The passing of our father was traumatic, as losing any parent would be.  We looked to the longevity of his life and how loved he was in a marriage of over 60 years.

Losing our brother was a heartache that was different and difficult for us to bear.  He left behind a young toddler, a wife, 4 sisters, devoted parents, countless friends, aunts, uncles, cousins nephews and neices.  He was taken from us at the young age of 47 to lung cancer.  Having been diagnosed he didn't have a long battle and passed quickly.

Thinking about the loss of Michael recently, we also thought how unimaginable it would be to lose a twin sibling, yet there are hundreds of multiple siblings who carry on each day without their womb buddy.  It was difficult to really talk about such a scenario and so I did some research and discovered that there are many groups and online venues who offer comfort to the lone twin and those who have sadly lost a multiple sibling. 

The Lone Twin Network

TAMBA The Bereavement Support Group

I am certain that the above groups are invaluable when it comes to searching for support for the painful loss of a multiple child or sibling.

How would you cope with the unbearable thought of the loss of your multiple sibling or child.  Unthinkable, as is any passing.  Our own spiritual beliefs and personal experience of confirmation of an afterlife has helped us accept our brother's and more recently, our father's passing.  Our faith is what tells us that although they are no longer tangible they are still by our sides and one day we will see them in the room next door. 

We recently created a keepsake message ring and  decided that we could create something special from the original design for lone twins to carry as a personal keepsake in memory of their lost sibling.  We have kept the rememberance memento simple in design and we hope demonstrates our sensitivity to what is such a poignant subject.

The venue "Born Together Friends Forever"
can be viewed  here